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It’s easy enough to email and wink and chat online, but not so easy when it comes to setting up a face-to-face meeting. The best way to meet someone for the first time is through a coffee date, but there are some daters who really feel strongly that making a phone call before they meet is more comfortable for them. For those folks, here are a few words of advice.
Keep the Call Short
Don’t get comfortable chatting on the phone. The whole purpose of online dating is not to have a phone or text buddy, it is to actually meet face-to-face and start a relationship. If you develop a routine of talking to your match regularly, it could mean that by the time you meet the potential spark will be gone.
Part of the fun of online dating is meeting someone in person for the first time. You have their emails and you can read their profile, but there’s nothing like hearing someone’s voice for the first time, or hearing the humor come through in the stories they tell. So keep your initial phone conversation short and to the point.
Until you know someone, you don’t know them. Keep safety in mind when giving a date your phone number. If you can, give them your cell phone (less traceable, but they can still find you if they wanted to) or borrow a phone from a friend.
You can also use your phone’s blocking system to block out your number. Call them and block your number. You may feel deep down that it’s rude to do this, but you have to push this thought away. Be safe first.
Saving the Real Conversation for When You Finally Meet
Instead of asking about your date’s hopes and dreams, his childhood experience, her biggest life goal or regret, save all this talk until you meet. Keep the conversation fairly casual. Ultimately the phone call before you meet should only be used as a way for you to feel more comfortable in meeting someone for the first time.