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Many midlife singles wonder if they should marry or remain single. Some midlifers come out of long-term marriages and wonder if it’s worth doing again. Others might have had relationships over the years, but never found someone they wanted to spend their life with.
Many midlife singles wonder if they should marry or remain single. Some midlifers came out of long-term marriages and wonder if it’s worth doing again. Others might have had relationships over the years, but never found someone they wanted to spend their life with.
How to decide if you should get married or stay single? Here are some points to help.
Want Might Want to Get Married If…
You’re In Love
Who needs to think twice about this? You’re in love, you want to spend the rest of your lives together, and you want to make it “official.” Nothing wrong with that.
If you love your mate but are still on the fence about whether or not to get married, here are some other reasons to consider.
Sharing Expenses and Benefits
You can save more by sharing things like a car payment, utility bills, food, and rent. If you can help each other financially by sharing health, pension, or social security benefits, it may also be a good idea to get married. This is especially true if one of you didn’t work as long or make as much money as the other person. You’ll have a more secure financial future by pooling your efforts and collecting as many benefits as you can.
Being There for Each Other
You might want to get married just to have someone there in case you need them in an emergency. If you fall and need help around the house, having your spouse there to make dinner or help you bathe will also allow you to recover more quickly. What’s more, health privacy laws today make it almost impossible to share information with someone if they are not officially “family.” A spouse will be able to carry out your wishes and get important details about your medical history.
Some people scoff when a person wants to get married because of their religious beliefs, but remember that getting married is a personal decision. If you believe it’s the right thing to do because of your own values, than do it. Don’t let the opinion of others make you question your own beliefs.
If you value companionship over independence, marriage may be the right choice for you. When you get married, you agree to be a part of something bigger than yourself. Choices and decisions are often made with the marriage in mind first, and as a result some of the things you would have normally done as a single without thinking twice (like spending money on big ticket items or taking off without a moment’s notice) will now fall to the back burner. But in return, you’ll have someone there each day who loves and cares for you.
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